The eighteen-year old, which did not want to get out of bed, is an example. Because of over protection on the part of his mother, he does not need to do anything, has no obligations or tasks. If everything is provided why should he bother?
I met a nice and polite, young man, who listened to music lying on his bed. Why should he rise? His mother takes care about everything and his father’s anger is half so bad. In this case I advised, to cancel all his comfortable conditions and move him into another room, which didn’t suit his slow-acting nature. Here I suggested strong and dominant colors: white, in order to enhance restrictions and authority and a strong light blue, in order to increase his energy. These are colors, which do not let him rest and dream. In addition I directed his attention towards his love for music, the only area, for which he showed interest and also some talent and from this point on he was ready to listen and permit some necessary changes.
Regarding the problems of children from a Feng Shui point of view, you try to understand the child and his problem from another ankle which includes his personality, his body and his environment. If these three aspects are being harmonized, the child will feel better, will behave better and be healthier and happier. I regard this as a comprehensive recipe for your child well being.
In rare cases I do advise to set up an aquarium as a therapy for special problems, like the girl, who was too rebellious in school. In her case, because in her personality the element water was missing, it strengthened her self-assurance and calmed her down. The girl also told me that she once had an aquarium in her room, which she had loved very much. Together with the new aquarium, changes in food and habits and some small changes in her room she felt more balanced, more self-assured and her aggressive behavior and also her school achievements became definitely better.
Children in puberty often cause their parents despair by outbreaks of rage or other extreme kinds of behavior.
Teenagers sometimes feel a need to wear only black color or to bring into their room a lot of black color. Again the color plays an important role, but this time it is an alarm. What does your teenager want to express?
Black is connected to fear, conflicts, hardship, stress and seclusion. It points to lack of communication, lack of movement and uncertainty.
During the time of puberty children are no longer children, but not yet adults. They are on the search. They rebel against the conventional life, but have fear of the unknown, the future. Thus the color black reflects exactly their condition and their feelings. Controversy over the color provokes only more fighting. Therefore, it is advised to take care of their distress first and after that to deal with the black color.
Important is however to talk to each other or better to let them talk about their conceptions and plans, about anything, which interests them. It is absolutely unimportant about what is spoken, as long as the connection and communication between children and parents continue. The more close the connection, all the easier and faster this difficult period will pass. Extreme behavior will disappear automatically and with it the color black.
Most parents are caring too much about their children, who are as a result so much spoiled that they do not know any longer, what they actually want.